Rather than see whatever is happening as a tough blip in the road, I see it as a behemoth problem and decide that the only solution is to quit. It's such an automatic reaction, I completely blow things out of proportion and I have a hard time seeing the bigger picture. At least in that moment. I actually considered quitting breastfeeding and pumping yesterday because I had one tough day.
Sometimes I have to talk myself down, sometimes another person talks me down, but it is definitely a pattern and I am wondering if I have some underlying beliefs that are driving this compulsion.
- Irrational Belief #1: It's too hard.
- IB #2: I will never be able to do this.
- IB #3: I can't handle it.
- IB #4: I am a bad person because I can't handle this.
- IB #5: If it's hard I might as well quit.
Let me go ahead and reframe these now:
- Rational Belief #1: It's hard now but it will get easier. OR Some days will be harder than others.
- RB #2: I may never be great at this but I will get better. OR It's hard now but it will get easier.
- RB #3: I can handle it. It's hard/tough but I can handle it.
- RB #4: You are a good person whether you are good at something or not. OR You are a good person even if you suck at something. OR I am a good person and I can handle it.
- RB #5: If it's hard you can keep trying. OR It's hard now but it will get easier. FOLLOWED BY If it doesn't get easier, you can decide to stop.
- RB #6: It's okay to suck at things. Everyone does sometimes.